Why use Bhagavad Gita quotes for Love and Relationships?
Being in Love is much sought-after! In fact, ‘finding the right one’ is a popular aspiration. And why not?! Love IS the most earth-shattering, life-altering sublime emotion, isn’t it?!
However, while many wish for it, a handful spend time figuring out how to handle this love relationship when it DOES finally manifest!
Rom-coms tell us that love once found, goes on ‘happily ever-after’! But the truth is otherwise…
Mistakes, willful or otherwise get ignored by two joyful hearts, only initially. For it to last, the ‘Feeling’ of Love must evolve into the ‘Verb’ of Love. That is to say, Lovers must keep nurturing their relationship while perfecting their mind-body-soul. This is where Love Bhagavad Gita quotes reveal the roadmap
Bhagavad Gita quotes promote enduring values that can subtly enhance the quality of one’s Love and Relationship, thereby help build ‘Forever love’
13 Tips from Lord Krishna’s Bhagavad Gita quotes to ‘Rise’ in your Love Relationship
(Reference : Bhagavad Gita translations from Swami Sivananda and Swami Chinmayananda)
1. Go beyond Romance, Be the purest/strongest version of you
Love blossoms easily on the fertile soil of romance. Roses, love-letters, sweet messages go a long way in cementing the bond.
Yet flowery actions/words must be backed with inherent strength. The following Bhagavad Gita quotes provide a comprehensive checklist of positive character traits relevant for a long term love relationship.
These might be hard to find in a single person. However, the checklist is handy for evaluation of a self/lover before moving up to a committed love relationship.
- How do you both rate on integrity? Truthful or deceitful?
- Are your intentions good on all fronts, mind/body and soul?
- Is either of you a pleasure addict? Or both are reasonably self-controlled?
- Are you mutually kind, compassionate, generous? Or haughty, arrogant, egoistic?
- Are you wise? Do you seek real knowledge? Do you believe in Divinity?
- How are you both with time? Constructive or careless?
- Is any of you greedy? Slothful? Indolent? Restless? Cunning? Deceitful?
If the answer is yes to most negative attributes, then make changes as fast as you can. Else hazard experimenting with a mutually toxic love relationship!
Relevant Love Bhagavad Gita quotes Chapter 16, verse 1, 2, 3,4
Abhayam sattwasamshuddhih jnaanayogavyavasthitih; Daanam damashcha yajnashcha swaadhyaayastapa aarjavam.
Translation: Fearlessness, purity of heart, steadfastness in Yoga and knowledge, alms-giving, control of the senses, sacrifice, study of scriptures, austerity and straightforwardness,
Ahimsaa satyamakrodhas tyaagah shaantirapaishunam; Dayaa bhooteshvaloluptwam maardavam hreerachaapalam.
Translation : Harmlessness, truth, absence of anger, renunciation, peacefulness, absence of crookedness, compassion towards beings, uncovetousness, gentleness, modesty, absence of fickleness,
Tejah kshamaa dhritih shauchamadroho naatimaanitaa; Bhavanti sampadam daiveem abhijaatasya bhaarata.
Translation : Vigour, forgiveness, fortitude, purity, absence of hatred, absence of pride—these belong to one born in a divine state,
Dambho darpo’bhimaanashcha krodhah paarushyameva cha; Ajnaanam chaabhijaatasya paartha sampadamaasureem.
Translation: Hypocrisy, arrogance, self-conceit, harshness and also anger and ignorance, belong to one who is born in a demoniacal state, O Arjuna
2. Do fun things together, Sattvic Fun cement the love relationship
Choose how you spend time with the one you love.
Here, Bhagavad Gita quotes relevant to love relationships say, pleasure that unfolds peace, tranquility, joy, creativity, delight and soul- expansion of is Sattvic. Hence these cement a love relationship and make them more fulfilling.
For example, A walk by the sunset, a fun trek, a soulful concert or an intimate tea-time chat, make togetherness meaningful and sublime.
On the contrary, only chasing fleeting pleasures like food/perfume/clothes/parties etc literally ‘jade’ a relationship over time. Therefore, after the initial ‘kick’, love struggles to settle on an anchor.
Lastly, morbid(tamasic) like wasting away, sleeping, substance abuse, depravity etc can rapidly sound the death knell on love relationships.
Therefore, seek beauty and spiritual sensitivity in time spent with your beloved.
Relevant love Bhagavad Gita quote Chapter 18, Verse 37,38,39
Yattadagre vishamiva parinaame’mritopamam; Tatsukham saattwikam proktam aatmabuddhiprasaadajam.
Translation : That which is like poison at first but in the end like nectar—that pleasure is declared to be Sattwic, born of the purity of one’s own mind due to Self-realisation.
Vishayendriya samyogaad yattadagre’mritopamam; Parinaame vishamiva tatsukham raajasam smritam.
Translation : That pleasure which arises from the contact of the sense-organs with the objects, which is at first like nectar and in the end like poison—that is declared to be Rajasic
Yadagre chaanubandhe cha sukham mohanamaatmanah; Nidraalasyapramaadottham tattaamasamudaahritam.
Translation : That pleasure which at first and in the sequel is delusive of the self, arising from sleep, indolence and heedlessness—such a pleasure is declared to be Tamasic
Read all about Sattva Rajas Tamas here
3. Embrace changes in your love! Change is a Cosmic Law
Nothing is static, not even electrons in an atom.
Therefore, Bhagavad Gita Quotes relevant to love relationships say that the Universe and this World of names and forms, all are in a state of flux. Change/Impermanence is a Cosmic law.
Then, why expect the love relationship to be the same as it was ‘that very first day’?
Additionally, an average being endures multiple stimuli of pleasure, pain, joy, disappointment, heat, cold within a span of 24 hours. Then,how can he resist growing, evolving, adapting and changing?
Hence, expecting our love relationship to remain static and unchanged forever is a tall order, isn’t it?
Instead, what if we embraced change and proactively anticipated in our beloved? Would we not want to keep up with it then?
And wouldn’t it be fun, when lovers seek to growth and thrive dynamically together?
Relevant Love Bhagavad Gita quotes, Chapter 2 Verse 14
Maatraasparshaastu kaunteya sheetoshnasukhaduhkhadaah; Aagamaapaayino’nityaas taamstitikshaswa bhaarata.
Translation : The contacts of the senses with the objects, O son of Kunti, which cause heat and cold and pleasure and pain, have a beginning and an end; they are impermanent; endure them bravely, O Arjuna
4. Watch your words! Make them soothing not scalding!
Love relationships cannot be without disagreements, arguments and frustrations.
Moreover, agreeing to disagree can be fun, adding spice to the gooey-sweet monotony of love.
But the problem starts when these get personal and ego-centric.
And hurtful words are the quickest route to love-decay. Additionally, they ruin relationships, cause resentment and make lovers vengeful. So be wary of this toxic weapon.
Relevant to Love relationships, the Bhagavad Gita quotes and the Smritis say, speak sweetly, truthfully and agreeably at all times (even when you are mad)
Therefore, discard cruel verbal attacks ‘under the guise of being honest’ and stop causing irreparable pain to your beloved.
Relevant Love Bhagavad Gita quotes, Chapter 17, verse 15,16
Anudwegakaram vaakyam satyam priyahitam cha yat; Swaadhyaayaabhyasanam chaiva vaangmayam tapa uchyate.
Translation: Speech which causes no excitement and is truthful, pleasant and beneficial, the practice of the study of the Vedas, are called austerity of speech.
Manahprasaadah saumyatwam maunamaatmavinigrahah; Bhaavasamshuddhirityetat tapo maanasamuchyate.
Translation: Serenity of mind, good-heartedness, purity of nature, self-control—this is called mental austerity
5. Accord high priority to your love/relationship- related duties
Obligatory duties that come with any relationship are non-negotiable as per Bhagavad Gita quotes relevant to love relationships
It is unfair to enjoy the status of being loved but shirk the moral, societal duties that come with it.
Simple actions like being vigilant about your beloved health and safety, tending to them when ill/down/exhausted, assisting them financially, stand up for them against bullies etc count a lot.
So, patiently take out the time and accommodate adjustments in your lifestyle, to make your beloved, ‘truly loved’
Also, read all about Bhagavad Gita quotes on Karma here
Relevant Love Bhagavad Gita quotes, Chapter 18, verse 7
Niyatasya tu sannyaasah karmano nopapadyate; Mohaattasya parityaagas taamasah parikeertitah.
Translation: Verily, the renunciation of obligatory action is improper; the abandonment of the same from delusion is declared to be Tamasic.
6. Moderation is the key, avoid fanning your ‘needs’ too much!
Abandon excessive desire-gratification. Instead live by the moderation advocated in Bhagavad Gita quotes relevant to Love relationships
Hence, practice temperance and self-control in everything.
However, the excitement of new love, make lovers go overboard. Consequently, needs and desires keep multiplying even after they are married.
Moreover, Bhagavad Gita warns us that says desires (wants) are like the flames of fire, that can never be appeased. Instead, the more you fan them, the more they grow.
Also, persistent sense gratification clouds the ego, mind and the intellect. Consequently, this promotes unbalanced licentious tendencies toxic for long-term love relationships.
Relevant Love Bhagavad Gita quotes, Chapter 6 verse 17 & Chapter 3 verse 39
Yuktaahaaravihaarasya yuktacheshtasya karmasu; Yuktaswapnaavabodhasya yogo bhavati duhkhahaa.
Translation: Yoga becomes the destroyer of pain for him who is always moderate in eating and recreation (such as walking, etc.), who is moderate in exertion in actions, who is moderate in sleep and wakefulness.
Aavritam jnaanam etena jnaanino nityavairinaa; Kaamaroopena kaunteya dushpoorenaanalena cha.
Translation: O Arjuna, wisdom is enveloped by this constant enemy of the wise in the form of desire, which is unappeasable as fire!
7. Love is Sacrifice, focus on giving not on receiving
This is the most difficult of all Bhagavad Gita quotes to apply in love relationships. But is also an Elixir for ‘Forever love’.
It says, Focus on giving and don’t keep tabs. That is to say, Give unconditionally with an open heart. Also, do this with a spirit of selflessness and dedication.
This alone will illumine your love relationship brighter than the brightest star!
So, Annihilate the ‘modern’ tendency to pause, reflect and evaluate returns at each step. It is a kill-joy!
Moreover, it only builds resentment as one lover will always be proven ahead of the other in terms of giving.
Additionally, the very effort of extracting that measly extra shifts the focus of the love-relationship from the joy of caring-sharing-giving.
Without the essence of true love, the relationship morphs into a cold-calculated arithmetic affair. Further, we know where that leads!
So, love unconditionally, don’t focus on the rewards, instead surrender them to God. And see how joyful the love relationship becomes.
Relevant Love Bhagavad Gita quotes Chapter2, verse 47, Chapter 3, Verse 9
Karmanyevaadhikaaraste maa phaleshu kadaachana; Maa karmaphalahetur bhoor maa te sango’stwakarmani.
Translation: Thy right is to work only, but never with its fruits; let not the fruits of actions be thy motive, nor let thy attachment be to inaction.
Yajnaarthaat karmano’nyatra loko’yam karmabandhanah; Tadartham karma kaunteya muktasangah samaachara.
Translation: The world is bound by actions other than those performed for the sake of sacrifice; do thou, therefore, O son of Kunti, perform action for that sake (for sacrifice) alone, free from attachment!
8. Stand by and fight for your love, fight to stay united
Love isn’t easy. Phases of joy and sorrow, loss and gain, failure and victory for both in the love relationship are unavoidable.
Pledge to stand by your partner through thick and thin. Resolve to be the rock that he/she can bank upon. Also battle all odds together.
Bhagavad Gita quotes relevant to love relationships advocate Equanimity for true success in all fields of life including our love relationships.
In other words, maintain equilibrium, optimism and provide unconditional support, through good and bad, success and failure, prosperity and lack. And NEVER hesitate to fight for the one you love, no matter the odds stacked up against you two
Relevant love bhagavad gita quote, Chapter 2, verse 38
Sukhaduhkhe same kritwaa laabhaalaabhau jayaajayau; Tato yuddhaaya yujyaswa naivam paapamavaapsyasi.
Translation: Having made pleasure and pain, gain and loss, victory and defeat the same, engage thou in battle for the sake of battle; thus thou shalt not incur sin.
9. Practice detachment, don’t be clingy or possessive.
Clinginess and Possessiveness are signs of internal weakness. These are nothing but a guise for insecurity and selfishness.
Flattering at first, this trait soon morphs into ugly toxicity for love relationships.
Here, the Lotus leaf simile from Bhagavad Gita Quotes advocate detachment, even in the midst of doing our duties to our best. Exactly like the lotus leaf that lives and dies in water but never lets it seep in.
Possessiveness creates resentment while Detachment brings wisdom, freedom.
Rooting Self in the Divine instead clinging to the beloved can lighten it for them. Also, the subsequent sense of freedom will help both put their best foot forward in the love relationship.
Relevant Love Bhagavad Gita quote, Chapter 5 verse 10
Brahmanyaadhaaya karmaani sangam tyaktwaa karoti yah; Lipyate na sa paapena padmapatram ivaambhasaa.
Translation: He who performs actions, offering them to Brahman and abandoning attachment, is not tainted by sin as a lotus leaf by water.
10. Gatekeep your Mind, Train it to Soar not Sink
It is in the nature of Mind to run amok.
It can make us overthink, create imaginary issues, find faults, blame our beloved etc etc. An unregulated mind is the perfect weapon to wreck the most of beautiful love relationships.
Bhagavad Gita quotes relevant to love relationships advice that the Mind can be our best friend or our worst foe, depending on how close we are to our inner Self (Soul- Atman).
So, stay centered and stand as a gatekeeper to your thoughts. Nurture the Mind with the serenity of larger good. Fill it with deep consciousness that can take you to the heights of beauty and perfection.
Relevant love Bhagavad gita quote, chapter 6 verse 5
Uddharedaatmanaatmaanam naatmaanamavasaadayet; Atmaiva hyaatmano bandhuraatmaiva ripuraatmanah.
Translation: Let a man lift himself by his own Self alone; let him not lower himself, for this self alone is the friend of oneself and this self alone is the enemy of oneself.
11. Be in harmony with the eco-system
Oftentimes, turbulence in the external ecosystem chips away at the inner peace in a love relationship.
It is tough to be benevolent with your beloved, while the work-place fight plays in the back of the head. Similarly its hard to be romantic when the neighbor is banging at the door, troubled with your loud music.
Bhagavad Gita quotes relevant to love relationships say that the ones who have trained themselves to be neutral to all kinds of people; the good, the bad and the ugly are on his road to excellence in every way.
Relevant Love Bhagavad Gita quotes, chapter 6 verse 9
Suhrinmitraary udaaseena madhyastha dweshya bandhushu; Saadhushwapi cha paapeshu samabuddhirvishishyate.
Translation: He who is of the same mind to the good-hearted, friends, enemies, the indifferent, the neutral, the hateful, the relatives, the righteous and the unrighteous, excels.
12. Guard your beloved’s dignity. Be vigilant about safety/reputation/finances
Causing disgrace, embarrassment, grief, bankruptcy can all spell the doom to a love relationship
Bhagavad Gita quotes relevant to love relationships warn against such recklessness. It advises never to indulge in careless actions leading danger, dishonor, instability of finances and disgrace.
Alcohol/ drug addiction, cheating, swindling, betting, gambling, taking too much debt, driving rashly etc come in the ambit of recklessness.
Relevant Love Bhagavad gita quote, chapter 18, verse 25
Anubandham kshayam himsaam anavekshya cha paurusham; Mohaadaarabhyate karma yattat taamasamuchyate.
Translation: That action which is undertaken from delusion, without regard to the consequences of loss, injury and (one’s own) ability—that is declared to be Tamasic
13. Shun lust, anger, greed. Use self-control, as an antidote to infidelity
Sometimes a steady, predictable, hassle-free love relationship rankles a thrill-seeking mind.
This is especially true of the easily-bored, adrenaline seeking Rajasic types. When love is not a challenge anymore, they hunt for ‘challenges’ in exciting escapades.
Then again, Tamasic personality types thrive on indolence and vulgarity. Being low on integrity, they don’t think twice before jumping into indiscretions.
Additionally, today’s fast-life throw up a million opportunities for infidelity on the stealth mode. And rarely is one caught red-handed, since most people just don’t care! Bhagavad Gita Quotes relevant to love relationships strictly warn us to stay away from the 3 gates to Hell; Lust, Anger and Greed
Betrayals definitely chip away at the relationship that matters the most! Also, chasing these cheap thrills come at the cost of creativity, productivity, peace and potential to grow in our love relationship. So, for lasting love, commit to being self-controlled
Relevant Love Bhagavad Gita quotes, Chapter 16 verse 21, Chapter 2 verses 64& 56
Trividham narakasyedam dwaaram naashanamaatmanah; Kaamah krodhastathaa lobhas tasmaadetat trayam tyajet.
Translation: Triple is the gate of this hell, destructive of the self—lust, anger, and greed,—therefore, one should abandon these three
Raagadwesha viyuktaistu vishayaanindriyaishcharan; Aatmavashyair vidheyaatmaa prasaadamadhigacchati.
Translation: But the self-controlled man, moving amongst objects with the senses under restraint, and free from attraction and repulsion, attains to peace.
Duhkheshwanudwignamanaah sukheshu vigatasprihah; Veetaraagabhayakrodhah sthitadheer munir uchyate.
Translation: He whose mind is not shaken by adversity, who does not hanker after pleasures, and who is free from attachment, fear and anger, is called a sage of steady wisdom.
So without delay, go ahead and try these tips from Bhagavad Gita quotes for that ideal Love Relationship
